What defines a good boyfriend?


Everytime...there's always complains about someone I'm dating in my life. From my first boyfriend..how I'm like the boyfriend cause I drove MYSELF around to meet him. Eventhough he took public transport most of the time to come see me, about once a week, people still complained, saying "You're the boyfriend, you deserve a better guy, anyone who got you sure damn lucky".

What about the love and care he showered me? Why does people always emphasize more on the bad side, like he need me for a ride sometimes.

but OK FINE. I take that an opinion, and I was only 17, and very easily influenced at that time, but it sure opened my mind on what I should really want in a boyfriend, and caused my relationship. We broke up after 2years.


Then comes my second boyfriend. He smokes, doesn't own a car either, etc etc. Yet complaints come flowing in, saying your boyfriend smokes, not good..doesn't own a car, make sure he's not using you. blablabla. all sorts of complaints. Does anyone know that he actually hates sitting in my car? and he's poor, but yet he made sure he has enough for both our meals and movies ,cause he's like that. He doesn't want to use my money, nor car, but sometimes he's just forced to.

Then again my current boyfriend, I receive the same old stuffs. Eventhough now I'm more stubborn, no one can change me as I got my firm grounds, but it kinda suck, having to listen all these again. And once again I've to defend. The only famed flaw my boyfriend has is his DOTA addiction AND doesn't fetch me around..but I've got a fregging car.

No one is perfect. Why keep pinpointing at the flaws? All of them loved and loves me very much. Just cause I don't go bragging what they did ? Just cause I'm ignorant enough to not mind that they have their own lives to live, going out without me? Do they really have to be by my side 24/7 eventhough I'm living in with him? Would I prefer a guy who does "normal things" like clubbing, or gambling , and not DOTA? I prefer the latter much more, thanks very much.

Yes, I admit sometimes I felt neglected, and whine alot. Who doesn't when they're unhappy? But look at the good side, I've got my own privacy. Would you rather a selfish guy? or like other flaws, unkind? drinks alot all the time? smokes? meet up with girls alot?

DOTA isn't that bad afterall, compared to all these. He's not uncaring, everything I do matters alot to him.

And I hate guys who listens to me, following my way all the time and ass kisses me. They're as good as dogs.